Friday, December 31, 2010

Happy New Year!!

Well it's New Years Eve, and my day hasn't been so great. Started off with wanting to get pizza and some chips for later with my sister and our friend. Ordered pizza, and they told us to come back in 10 minutes. So we went to stop & shop in the mean time to get ham and chips. And my friend ended up losing her wallet. Long story short, we ended up having COLD pizza and a crying hysterically friend. 

Thing is, losing a wallet is such a little thing. We had her call her bank and cancel her accounts, and she only had $21, which is not a big deal. People lose their houses because of fires, and it's still not the end of the world. Our life goes on, it doesn't stop because something happened. We have to deal with it and move on, make the best of what we have. Things like this are VERY little compared to what other people go through. 

I hope the New Year of 2011 will bring to you:


H ours of happy times with friends and family
A bundant time for relaxation
P rosperity
P lenty of love when you need it the most
Y outhful excitement at lifes simple pleasures

N ights of restful slumber 
E verything you need
W ishing you love and light

Y ears and years of good health
E njoyment and mirth
A angels to watch over you
R embrances of all the happy years

And anything else your hearts desire! 


Just think about how you made it through 2010, the good and the bad!! YAY! we made it together!! Now we're making our way into another new year, we should be happy we made it through all of the tough times, and know that we have the strength to overcome anything, no matter what 2011 throws at us!


I'll be spending my New Year sitting on my bed with my sister, eating cold pizza and watching the ball drop on tv. YAY! at least i get to spend it with one person i love so much!


Have a Happy New Year!!


Best wishes to you all, 
xoxo Lina

Wednesday, December 29, 2010

Don't let things bring you down!

Earlier today, I made a new youtube video, a new year's makeup look. I thought it was so gorgeous and absolutely stunning. I took a picture and everything and I just loved the makeup. I was going to the mall in a couple of hours, but I didn't feel like washing off this beautiful makeup as it was a bit dramatic for an everyday look, and well it was only early afternoon. SO i went to the mall with dramatic eye makeup.

We ran into my sisters friend, ex-boyfriend, boyfriend... whatever he is... and well he looked at me and said "woah whats with your makeup" and I told him i was making a video. He then later asked my sister what was up with my makeup, and she also told him I was making a video earlier that day. And he was just like "oh yeah, well how many views do her videos get?"... like that's really important. All that does matter about my youtube channel is that I can sort of like talk to everyone and help people. Then later my mother started saying something about my makeup (she's not too supportive of my passion and obsession with makeup, she doesn't understand)... and well with all of that criticism i was feeling a little down.

After all of that happened and I was already a bit upset, we went to Macy's. then the store was closing and yadda yadda yadda... and the guy that helped us pick things out later said to me "i love your makeup, it's beautiful". My point here is that that man just made my night. He all of a sudden made me extremely happy and i thanked him a zillion times. 

Here's some things you can do to help you get by:
  1. What we should all remember is that if we like something we should tell the person, A person can always use a compliment and you never know when they'll be needing it most. With such a simple compliment you can change someone's mood, and you can make their day that much better. 
  2. My second point is that when you feel like you world is falling down and crumbling at your feet, just know that there is a whole bunch of good things just waiting to happen. The good follows the bad, and if the bad didn't happen, we'd never appreciate the good. 
  3. And my third point is that I shouldn't have gotten upset, even just a little bit. I know I'm great at doing makeup, and i know i looked pretty. What everyone else says shouldn't matter because ultimately you are the only one that need to like it. You're wearing the makeup not anyone else. You're the one that needs to feel comfortable in your own skin. You need to believe in yourself and have your own opinions. Who cares if one person doesn't like it? What matters is that you like it, and with confidence, many other will like it too!
So now that we've learned a few things from this day and from this post, i hope you all enjoy this new year's makeup tutorial!!



Keeping my head up high, 
xoxo... your Lina

Friday, December 24, 2010

Happy Holidays!

Maybe you're religious and maybe you're not. 
But today is Christmas Eve, and many people come together to celebrate. 

Here I am wishing your holiday season is decorated with happiness and lighted up with joy and cheer!

Have a wonderful holiday season! 

lots of joy,
xoxo Lina

Thursday, December 23, 2010

Before/After hair!!

for all of my fans, don't be surprised when in the next video my hair isn't dark brown anymore!!!

haha here's the before picture... that i kinda just got from one of my videos because i didn't want to go through all of the pictures on my computer... but you get the point all you have to see is my hair..


and this is what it looks like now!! my eyebrows are dyed too!!

it was just time for a change. i usually dye my hair every like 6 or so months. this was a big change for me though because i never quite had this color (it's like a light brown with an orange tint... so like copper?) and i've never dyed my eyebrows before either!! so i was scared!

let me know what you guys think!!!!


no big surprises when you watch new videos...
xoxo Lina 


Saturday, December 18, 2010

What does your Christmas tree look like?

Well.. my dad asked me to decorate my Christmas tree. He told me that mommy doesn't have time to decorate it, though I don't quite understand how she's busy, when she's on the phone talking to her friends most of the day. But whatevs, i decorated the tree anyway out of construction paper. I was doing something nice, because well I'm a nice person. And I also like a decorated Christmas tree. So although I have finals and i was supposed to studying, i took 3 hours of my time to make these decorations. And they're so pretty because they're neon colors. And my sister wouldn't help me.. she was being mean. =/ So I could have either been studying, or sleeping because I was up til 2am!
So after i sat there cutting strips of paper, looping them and taping them together, daddy and I decorated the Christmas tree. My mother better appreciate it! I should have put the lights on, but ehh, i guess that will do. I personally think it looks pretty!!
Then when I went babysitting last night, I saw their GINORMOUS Christmas tree! This was like the biggest Christmas tree I have ever seen in anyone's house. It was like oh so brollic.! You can't see all of the pretty decorations in the picture, but the tree was beautiful! Their son also made those loop things I made and put them on tree, though he made a lot less than I did!

What does your Christmas tree look like?


Bright lights and construction paper, 
xoxo Lina



Thursday, December 16, 2010

BAKING peppermint meringues!

Well as most of you should know... I was baking peppermint meringues as a Christmas special this holiday season. BUT... I failed baking it the first time! the second time around, they actually looked good and tasted great! Thing is though, you can't give up when something doesn't work out. You keep going and you try again until you get it right! If i gave up.. there wouldn't have been a "good" baking video and then what would you guys bake for your holiday!?

Hope you guys will enjoy the videos!!

Here's the FAILED baking one, but it's SUPER FUNNY! where your flat peppermint meringues will look like this:

And here's the "good" baking one, where your peppermint meringues will look oh so very delicious!!


Happy Holidays!!

Minty fresh breath everywhere,
xoxo Lina

Monday, December 13, 2010

Kandee Johnson look-alike?

So today... well a few people told me that I look like Kandee Johnson. So I thought i'd take a picture and let you guys let me know! I didn't mean to look sad... I was actually very happy. The camera just didn't capture my happiness... haha =)

Let's not look at my messy room in the mirror. Its finals week, it's okay to be messy then haha especially since i'm only getting like 4 hours of sleep a night!!

Your Kandee look-alike?
xoxo Lina

Sunday, December 12, 2010

Baking with my sister...

Turned out to be a complete and total DISASTER! Haha, it was just too funny though. Who knew failing at baking would be so much fun?! We made the best of it, and laughed our little butts off. We THOUGHT what we baked would turn out okay and we assumed we knew how to follow directions haha, so everything was recorded. And I made a video out of it for you guys!!

I hope you guys can look at this video when you're down, and I am certain it will cheer you up. Laughing at this video never gets old to me and i must've watched it a good 25 times already today. And each time, i laughed my little butt off. 

I will be posting another baking video, making the same thing. With it actually working out though, and my cookies tasting amazing!! That way you all can still bake something delicious for the holidays! I will not give up! I will keep making these cookies until they come out right!! 

Hope you guys enjoy this video! Bleh, i don't need to hope. I KNOW you'll enjoy this video. It's just too funny not to laugh! Make sure you watch towards the end where we put the mixture in the bag. From there on... be ready to fall off of your chair or roll off of your bed, wherever you may be.





Flat peppermint meringues...
xoxo Lina

New winner!

Since the first winner did not contact me within 24 hours, it was time to pick a new winner! Well... I didn't pick the winner. it was randomly generated!

So the new winner of the palette is:

needlove2009

YAY!! CONGRATULATIONS! For being the next NEW winnner! 
So now... you have to contact me within 24 hours. This will be posted at 12am. and you have until 12am on December 13th my time which is eastern US. If you don't contact me within 24 hours, well another new winner will be chosen. 

I will be playing this game of choosing new winners until someone contacts me!! hehe, it's kind of fun!! it's like, let's catch me.. but not really. because all you have to do is e-mail me! It's really not that hard.

Clock starts ticking now, 
and i'll be waiting for an e-mail,
xoxo Lina

Saturday, December 11, 2010

And the winner is....

As all of you know (or should know), I was holding a contest for the past 2 weeks as a THANK YOU for helping me reach 1,000 subscribers!!! YAY! you all have been so very supportive and i just want to say, thank you so much. 

So who is the lucky winner of this palette?


It is:
pndagrl9

YAY! CONGRATULATIONS! YOU ARE THE WINNER!

now, you have 24 hours to contact me, otherwise a new winner will be chosen because that's only fair to the people that actually visit my channel and read my blog!
Clock starts ticking now.


Remember if you didn't win, that DOES NOT make you a loser! This was sort of like gambling but not really because you had nothing to lose! I will be having more contests! Once I reach 2,500 subscribers I'll give out another prize, and the 5,000 and so on. Look out for random contests too, because i'm thinking of just having random ones here and there! YAY! you'll have more chances to win!


Clock is ticking,
~Lina


P.S. Just so everyone knows, I made the contest fair in that I only counted each person's comment once!!  That way everyone had an equal chance of winning. However in future contests, you guys will be able to comment as many times as you want!

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Let's stay warm this winter!

Has it even been the first day of winter yet or is it still fall? All I know is that it's like a freezer outside! When you breath and you can see your breath in the air, then you know it's EXTREMELY cold! so let's stay warm this winter!

Wear scarves, gloves, hats, warm boots, jackets, sweaters... etc. Just wear everything you can to stay warm and without looking like a snowman!


So the picture above is probably a really bad example of staying warm. But the idea was to wear scarves!! Let's say you don't like those warm wintery scarves (like me)... well.. wearing a cute scarf is still better than not wearing a scarf at all! it'll still keep your chest and neck warm. warmer then it would be without a scarf!


 now that is what warm looks like! I didn't have my hat with me, but i made use of my hood. And my jacket is just so warm and long! SO i can wear leggings, because the jacket goes down to my knees and keeps my legs warm for me too! and if you could see, i'm wearing gloves, and they're keeping my hands warm, and keeping them from becoming all dry and ugly!! YAY!


bundle up and stay warm,
~Lina

Sunday, December 5, 2010

Holiday season!

I just love Holiday season! all the Christmas decorations everywhere, and all those holiday lattes at Starbucks and Dunkin Donuts. 

I love walking around New York City! It's always so beautiful around Christmas season. There's more laughter and joy all around the place. and the decorations around Penn Station are just so beautiful! I had to take a picture of the GINORMOUS "believe" thing on Macy's. It's just so beautiful. I wish i was there all year round and it should be. Because we should always believe in ourselves and in others. We need to believe.
The smurf was also outside of Macy's by Penn Station. I just thought it was so cute because i didn't see it there last year. I used to watch smurfs all the time when I was little... the English versions and the Polish versions. And then I used to sing the polish version of the song "i'm a barbie girl in a barbie world".. but the words were different and it was about smurfs!
I am currently at Starbucks getting some homework done (or more like typing this blog) with my peppermint mocha! I love their peppermint mocha and their gingerbread lattes. I've been waiting for these drink for 10 months now... since they got rid of it last year. I hate that they only have them around holiday season though, i wish they were all year round. 

Christmas/Holiday season just brings so many great memories. So much joy, laughter and happiness. I think it's just a beautiful and wonderful thing. I wish everyone could always be so cheerful like they are tis time of the year.

Enjoy this time of the year, 
~Lina

Saturday, December 4, 2010

November faves!

WOW, it's already November! The 2010 year is almost over! Time really does fly, i remember when it was still 2009 like it was yesterday!

Anyways, so my very first favorite for november, was a cupcake photo holder! I can't exactly find the one I have because it was from Joyce Leslie, and that store doesn't have a website. So here is a similar one even though it just has one photo holder thingie. Click here to buy.

My next two favorites are two lipsticks! First one is "Girl about town" from MAC, it's like a deep and bright pink color. And the second is a nude lipstick from Sephora. So it's just any nude lipstick that you like.

Next favorite is the avocado oatmeal clay mask. Yes it's a new bottle thing then from the one I have but it's the same brand, same product. It leaves your skin feeling so soft, and get rids of dirt and excess oil. You should probably be able to get this at Kmart or something.
Another one of my favorites is Clearasil Acne Spot treatment cream. You can get this at any drugstore such as Duane Reade, CVS, and Walgreens. Or just any drugstore around you. I can't give you guys a link for this as there is creams for teens and creams for adults as well as tinted creams and the regular white ones. So that's your preference.

And last but not least, a candle in the scent Spice from bath and body works. You can get TWO of the smaller candle for $12 right now. And you can get two different scents. Or you can buy one BIG candle for almost $20. They smell wonderful!


Hope you guys enjoy the video!!! And Happy December now!



Have a wonderful and smiley day, 
~Lina




Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Credit cards!

My credit card just saved my life!! So i just got home around 11:39p.m. - ish. And well since it's cyber Monday i wanted to see if best buy had a sale so I can buy a new camera and make more youtube videos! And well they did, so I quickly looked around for a camera and my credit card bought it for me with the last 10 minutes I had before midnight and before the sale was over!!


I hope it's a good camera!! And i'll be soon making more videos with hopefully a better quality!!!

A not so happy credit card, 
Lina

Sunday, November 28, 2010

SHOE shopping!

Seriously, someone should probably drag me to shopaholics anonymous! I've been shopping EVERY day this weekend because of all the black friday sales and everything. Sales weren't just on friday though, a lot of them carried out to today! I guess we could pretty much say that I went a little overboard! And the reason I probably went a bit overboard was because this year was the first time i actually went black friday shopping! I woke up at 3:30am just so I could go shopping!
Then today I also went to the Walt Whitman Mall out east on Long Island (yes i live on Long Island).. and fell in love with this stand. There were so many leggings! I didn't buy anything though since i bought a whole bunch of leggings this weekend anyway, but i had to take a picture, because it just felt like heaven to me!
So after that I went shoe shopping! Love my shoes was having a buy 1, get 1 free sale. So if you saw shoes for like $160, you'd pretty much omly be paying $80 for one pair of shoes if you bought two! And the good thing about love my shoes is that most shoes are either leather or suede, and not the fake leather, but REAL leather, so the shoes will last you longer.!

So anyways, i saw these one pair of shoes, but i think they might have been a little bigg....
 And these, well they were just a teeny bit small! I was thinking about buying them for my puppy.... but they'd be too big for him. So too small for me but too big for him! Maybe they should just make some better fitting shoes!!!
Did anyone else go crazy this weekend?! 

And for those of you who don't live in the U.S. and don't know what Black Friday is.. well it's the friday after thanksgiving, and almost all stores have HUGE sales! So you guys should definitely go on vacation to the U.S. just for Black Friday sales!!


An empty wallet...
~*Lina*~


Saturday, November 27, 2010

1,000 subbies CONTEST!!

As most of you already now, i have reached 1,000 subscriberss! As a thank you, you will have the chance to win:


I think this palette would be great for you guys to have BECAUSE i will be using similar colors in upcoming make-up tutorials!!

To enter:
- must be subscribed to my youtube channel
- comment on that video, asking a question you'd like to see answered in a FAQ video
- must be subscribed/ or following this blog.

The winner will be posted here on December 11, 2010. The winner will have 24 hours to contact me, via email. My email is linamariax3@aim.com If the winner does not contact me within 24 hours, i will choose another winner. And i'll keep choosing until someone contacts me! =)

Good luck to you all!!!



wishing you luck,
Lina

Friday, November 26, 2010

Black Friday!!!

So today I experienced something new! My very first Black Friday shopping!! YAY! i was always too scared to go shopping on that day because of all the stories where people fight for clothes and push you over, but NONE of that was true!! So for those of you also scared of that, well now you can go shopping next year because it's not true at all. 

Some stores don't even have sales though. But some have AMAZING sales. Just have to shop aroundd! I've been up since 3:30am. I only slept for 3 hours before I had to get up, get ready, pick up my friend, and drive to the mall! It was still extremely dark outside, and it was raining!

So when i was on a search looking for hats for a gift for my friend... I stumbled across this UGLY looking hat! 


Who would even wear that ugly gold hat!? and it had sequins all over?! that would bring so much attention! i think everyone would just laugh at you! no wonder they had so many, no one wanted to buy them because they're so hideous!

then when i was waiting in line at Zara's yo buy ONE shirt, this person caught my eye. I don't know who she is or anything. but who doesn't know that red and pink DO NOT go together unless it's valentine's day?! plus some fishnet stockings that make you look like a hooker?! this would definitely be on hollywood's worst dressed list.


Anyways, then I went shopping at Joyce Leslie. I saw these gorgeouss candles and had to get them! Especially since i'm in love with zebra print!! Then i lit them up when I got home and they smelled so good tooo!!


Then we took a little ride to IHOP! The international house of pancakes! I've never been there before so i was in for some amazingly delicious food!! Even the menu looked so delicious! I didn't know what to order!!

 But I finally decided on some coffee, with cream and sugar. Yes, i used SIX little thingies of cream, and while we were waiting for our food, i made that pyramid!! =)

Then when I got my food, It looked soooo amazingg!!! I got pumpkin pancakes drizzled with caramel syrup and pralines with whipped cream on top! and with that came hash browns, eggs, and bacon! Ahhh it was all so amazingly delicious! I just want to go there again and order the crepes, waffles, french toast! I want one of everything on the menu!!!

And yes i took a bite out of my pancakes before I took the picture! It just looked so good, i couldn't wait any longer!



 Anyways, so that was my black friday experience. My wallet is now.... well empty. Black Friday ate all the money in my walllet!! well, until next year! I better start saving!!

If you all went shopping today, well I hope you had as much fun as I did!!! and if you're still shopping, well then HAPPY SHOPPING!!! 

Yummiess in my tummy....
your Lina <3



Thursday, November 25, 2010

Happy Thanksgiving!, or as I like to say, Happy Turkey Day!!

Today, what are you thankful for? Look back at everything that happened in your life this year, and choose the one thing you're most thankful for. Although you should be thankful EVERY day, this will be a summing it up kind of thing. 

Is it the strength you had in your time of need? Is it just being alive and still breathing? Are you thankful for family and friends? What is it that you're thankful for on this holiday?

I am thankful for chances and opportunities. With job interviews and everything, i had a possible opportunity to work there. Even though I didn't get the job. But I still had the chance, and i'm thankful for that.

I'm thankful for my youtube channel, for having the opportunity to make an account and start making my own videos. And I thank every one of you for supporting me!




I'm thankful for my parents finally letting my sister and I get a puppy! In my eyes, it's the opportunity to take care of this living thing, to take on more responsibility, and to grow into bigger people with bigger hearts and much more love.

I'm thankful for just taking chances and taking opportunities as they come who made me who I am today. I am thankful for the many more opportunities to come!


Wherever you may be, you can still celebrate Thanksgiving today. It's not about the large amounts of food you may have on your table. It's about spending time with your loved ones. Even if you're not with them, know they are in your hearts. Today be thankful. 

Happy holidays everyone!!!

~*Lina*~

Friday, November 12, 2010

Keep going until you run out of cake!

Sometimes we feel like we did everything we could, and yet we failed. Well I'm here to say, keep trying!

Yesterday I had a job interview at Forever 21. It was my very FIRST interview and I was so nervous. I wasn't qualified at all, and I'm sure someone else was a lot more qualified then I since i have NO retail experience. So why should they hire me? Because I can help create a positive shopping environment for the customers since i'm always happy and always smiling. Although I was scared and nervous, I didn't walk in there with nervousness but instead, i walked in there with resoluteness. I wanted this job! And I was going to do what I could to get this job. I know I'd be a good addition to the company. So when I was being interviewed, instead of lying and bullshitting my way through like most people do, i spoke the truth. I made him laugh, I laughed, and he had fun just interviewing me. And i had fun answering questions. 

Even if I don't get the job, I know I gave it all I had. It's not my fault I wasn't qualified. Most places won't hire you unless you've had previous retail experience, thing is... where do they expect you to start if everyone bases it on experience? But you know what, I won't give up. I'll go fill out another application for maybe H&M, and any store I can possibly think of until one store hires me. 

This doesn't mean just about jobs. This is about anything. Maybe you got a bad grade on an exam, well study harder, and keep trying to do better! Maybe you're having a hard time doing this or that, Keep trying! Sometimes you just have to keep trying and trying. You may fall, you may fail, but don't let that keep you down! Get back out there, and fight for what you deserve!

Keep trying until you've applied to every store known to man. Keep trying until you get what you want! You may keep falling, but keep getting back up! Keep going until you run out of cake!

"Every accomplishment starts with the decision to try."

get those feet back on the ground, 
~*Lina*~

Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Some of my favorite products!!

So i bought all these products in October, so i'm going to call them October favoritees! I've used them just about every day, and they're just so amazing! Here are some of the things I reallly like :

One of my first favorites is L'Oreals Infallible lipstick in Beyonce Red -- wow I wish i knew they sold that in target before i paid $14 for it in CVS! Anyways this lipstick DOES NOT COME OFF unless you use an oil-based make-up remover. It will not come off with water! You can eat with it and drink with it, and your lips will look glamorous all day long!



Another my favorites is the Alba Un-Petroleum Jelly, it moisturizes your skin like crazyy! DO NOT wear it under your make-up, because you'll look like a greaseball. But put it on at night when you're going to sleep, and let your skin moisturize! Don't worry, this does not mean your face is going to get oily, but it will make your skin feel smoother, look healthier, and get rid of any dry skin you may have. 



Another thing I ABSOLUTELY LOVE is Burt's bees citrus scrub! I have no idea where you can get this product in a store, so i've provided you with a link, just like I did for all of the other products! this scrub is gentle enough to use on a daily basis and you can even use it DAY and NIGHT! it will not irritate your skin because of the beads and stuff in it, or at least it shouldn't. It also makes your skin feeling extremely smooth and soft, and I just absolutely lovee it!




Another favorite is Sephora's Opi Nail polish in the color "caffeine fix". I tried finding this color for you to buy on Sephora's website, but it turns out it's extremely hard to find. I'd suggest for you to look it up on ebay, if you really want that color!




Another amazing lipstick is Lady Gaga's pink lipstick in the color "viva glam". It looks so beautiful when it's on your lips and it's extremely pink like bubblegum. The link I posted is to buy it from Bloomingdale's, but you can purchase it at any MAC store, or any other department stores that have a MAC section inside!



Now for my last favorite product for this month, it's Model in a Bottle! Model in a bottle is an amazing make-up setting spray, making your make-up stay on your face all day long without it sliding off! It also gives your make-up a matte finish, which is great because your make-up looks fresh all day long! I'm absolutely in love with this stuff! It's even better than urban decay's all nighter make-up setting spray! Try it out, it's like magic!




SO those are my favorite six products of the month. I hope you will love them as much as I do!!
And now here's a video for you guys telling you about these products with some funny BLOOPERS and things going on in the video! Hope you like it! Enjoy!





Happy shoppinggg!
~*Lina*~



Tuesday, November 9, 2010

It's November!!

In November we have the Thanksgiving holiday, but why should we be thankful on just one day? It's nice to get the whole family together, or friends, or whatever it may be, but shouldn't we be thankful every day?

thankful for another day that we're breathing and alive. thankful we have food on the table. thankful we have a place to live. thankful that we have clothes and are not freezing our butts off in this winter weather... even though it's not officially winter yet. thankful for family and friends. thankful for everything we have and that we're fortunate enough to have all these things.

some people don't appreciate what they have. if they lost what they had, they'd be lost in this world, not knowing where to go from there. at least when you appreciate it, you can imagine what your life would be like without it. there are so many people out there, in the U.S.A, in third world countries, and just about everywhere, you have people on the streets. people that don't have the money to afford things, people who don't have half as much as we have. so we need to be thankful for what we have because there are many others who wish they could have as much as we have!

The problem is that when things are given to us over and over, we start taking them for granted or we forget being appreciative of what we receive.

You will find you are in a much more optimistic state after you've spent a few minutes reflecting about your blessings and feeling grateful for them. Compassion and kindness will probably fill your heart.

What are you thankful for?

"A thankful heart is not only the greatest virtue, but the parent of all other virtues."


be thankful, today, and every day,
~*Lina*~

Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Beating the fears that are holding us back!

Fear of something bad happening in the future is one of the things that make us human.

We fear something that might happen, that isn’t happening now, that isn’t even showing its ugly face at the moment. These fears are holding us back from achieving something.
The most common fear is the fear of not being good enough. Not being good enough — is actually at the root of all the others you may also have. We fear we’ll fail because we’re not good enough. We fear we’ll lose our relationships, that we’ll be abandoned, that we’ll be rejected … because we’re not good enough. We fear intimacy for the very same reason — we might get rejected because we’re not good enough. Even the fear of success is based on the worry that we’re not good enough.
Do you have this fear? That you’re not good enough? I have, for all my life, and I still have it today. But here’s the thing: having the fear is natural. Letting it stop you from going after your dreams is a tragedy. You ARE good enough! You may not be perfect, but who is?
Don't let the fear stop you from doing things. It's okay to have the fear, but don't let it hold you back. Say so what, if you fail and flop on your face in front of 1,000 people, it's okay, you wouldn't be human if you didn't. Even the most successful people such as Bill Gates, Barrack Obama, etc... have this fear, they just don't show it and they most certainly don't let it hold them back.
Acknowledge your fear. This is a huge first step. If you do just this today, you’ve done something great. Many of us have these fears, but they are at the back of our mind, unnoticed, unacknowledged, as we try to ignore them and pretend they’re not there. But they are there. And they affect us, every day, all our lives. So acknowledge the fear.
Write it down. What’s your fear? Write it on a piece of paper. Writing it down not only acknowledges that you have it — bringing it out into the light — but it externalizes the fear. It takes the fear from the dark lurking places in the back of your mind, where it has power over you, out into the light of day, outside of you, where you have power over the fear. Take control over it by writing it down. It is now outside you. You can do something about it. 
Feel the fear. You’ve acknowledged it, but you’re still afraid of it. Recognize that you’re not alone, that we ALL have these fears, that we all think we might not be good enough. This fear isn’t as bad as you think. It’s a part of you, but it doesn’t control you
Ask yourself: what’s the worst thing that can happen? Often it’s not as bad as we think. Do you fear failing in a new career? What would happen if you did? You’d get another job. You’d move on. You’d live. Do you fear being rejected by someone of the opposite sex? What would happen if you were? You’d find someone else who is more suited for you, you’d live. Do you fear being broke? What would happen if you were? You’d cut back on your expenses, perhaps ask family or friends to help you out for a little bit. You’d find a way to make money. You’d live.
Just do it. Feel the fear and do it anyway. To beat the fear, you have to just do it. Ignore your fears and just go for it, so many opportunities will come as a result!
Prepare yourself for battle. When you’re going to take on an adversary, you prepare yourself. You arm yourself, and have a battle plan, and train yourself. Do this in your battle against your fear: arm yourself, have a battle plan, train yourself. If you want to be a musician but you fear failure … practice, practice, practice, then come up with a plan to succeed, then get all the skills and info you need to implement the plan, then practice some more. Then go out and implement the plan!
Be in the moment. Fear of failure (and other similar fears) are fears of the future. We get caught up in worrying about what might happen. Instead, banish all thoughts of the future. Banish even thoughts of past mistakes and failures. Now focus on right now. Do something right now to beat your fears, to pursue your dreams, and forget about what might happen. Just do it, now, in the moment. When you find yourself thinking about the past or future, bring yourself back in the moment and focus on what you’re doing right at this moment.
Small steps. Conquering fear and pursuing a life goal can be overwhelming, intimidating. So start small. Just take one little baby step. Something you know you can do. Something you’re sure to succeed at. Then feel good about that and take another small baby step. Keep doing this, and soon you’ll have conquered a mountain.
Celebrate every success! Every single thing you do right, celebrate! Even the smallest little thing. And use this feeling of success, of victory, to propel yourself forward and take the next step. Build upon each success, use it as a stepping stone to the next victory.
“To conquer fear is the beginning of wisdom.”  - Bertrand Russell

 Fearlessly moving forward,
~*Lina*~
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